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When I spoke to a friend about launching this blog, the subject of not givin in and the challenges that being over 40 brings, she raised the question of where to shop? It’s a good question; can we still buy clothes in the same stores that we used to when we were younger? And if so, will we look like mutton dressed as lamb?

There’s no argument that shopping habits do change as you get older. God knows if I go out tomorrow night wearing the eye-watering ensemble of cycling shorts, swimming costume, leather biker jacket and cowboy boots that I did one night in my 20’s, I’ll be sectioned. (I blame Michael Hutchence for the outfit btw).

However, being over 40 doesn’t mean being frumpy. Indeed, it’s all the more reason to dress up and feel fabulous. Turn a head or two if we so choose to do so. We can be as stylish as we want and having great style will win over wearing the latest fashions every time.

Now I can’t claim to be the most stylish (see 2^nd paragraph), but I like to think that I have a good eye and enjoy buying clothes for myself and telling friends of things I’ve seen that I think they’ll look great in. So I’ve taken the question raised and looked more closely at one of the stores where us forty somethings might otherwise hesitate at the door.

If you thought Topshop only caters for the young I think you might be pleasantly surprised. To be honest, I always go in there. If nothing else I want to get ideas, see what the current trends are and look for ways to incorporate it into my wardrobe. Push past the obvious choices that only the young can get away with and there really are some great finds.

Here’s six of my faves from A/W 2015

Zebra Print Shirt Dress, £58

I love this dress. It does all the talking for you. Striking and beautifully cut, it covers up some bits I’d rather not show, like my arms, and is a flattering length. You could even wear it open as a cover up with a bright orange top, black jeggings and boots underneath.

Faux Leather Shift Dress, £45

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Leather is everywhere this season and this dress could be worn with flat boots and tights in the day or with your hair up and heels at night. I would love the green colour too, as it’s a classic colour that’s not black.

Drape Neck Blouse, £36

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Sophisticated and sexy at the same time, this blouse is on trend with its nod to the 70’s and would work well with jeans or as it does here with a leather skirt.

Ribbed Funnel Neck Top, £16

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Update a winter wardrobe staple in this season’s nude colours.

Wide Leg Palazzo Pants, £55

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This season’s palazzo pants are a nice break from skinny jeans and jeggings.

Fitted Boyfriend Blazer, £49

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Dressed up or down a blazer is so handy and here is a version in this season’s berry shade that’s stylish and understated.

So these are my favourites from the current season in Topshop. Do you like what I’ve chosen or have different views on what to wear? Please share in the comments below.

If you enjoyed reading this you might also like my post on lipstick.

Gail x

lipstick

A couple of years ago I woke up out of the fog of my, far too busy, early 40’s and didn’t recognise the face in the mirror.

A pretty tired, plain, quite indignant face was staring right back at me. After I got over the initial shock, I started to root around the bathroom cabinet looking for ‘tools’ to repair the damage and realised it was a baron playground.

I have always loved make-up. My mum bought me my first ‘how to wear’ make up book and as I got older and was hitting the nightlife I would buy magazines and experiment by copying the different looks while watching the Brookside Omnibus.

Of course, nowadays you can find everything you need online, so upon realising action needed to be taken I spent a few lazy-ass Saturday afternoons indulging in some research. I came across a bunch of make-up bloggers. They had helpful tutorials, listed their favourite buys, and talked about new trends. It was far better than taking my cue from an advert. I’ll never look like Eva Longoria, but the girl next-door, I might have a chance.

When MAC first came to the UK I was in my twenties. Its first store was on the King’s Road and my friend and I caught the train to London just to go shopping there. Now you can find any brand you want in any major city and buy online. It’s much more accessible and so much cheaper than the train fare.

So, when I chanced upon these new breed of make-up fans on the net I scoured for MAC lipsticks. You got to start somewhere and with a flick of mascara and a fab lipstick you can be good to go. It felt like a good starting place as I was a bit anxious about the process, as post-fog my face had changed, a lot.

You can find tons of posts on Top 10 favourite MAC lipsticks and I picked out a few shades that I thought might work and placed an order. I was very excited to receive Hue, Angel, Shy Girl and Crème Cup, which are all pretty variations of nude lipsticks.

Unfortunately for me the zing didn’t happen and I was a bit disappointed in myself for making the mistake. They looked great on the girls! There’s the clue, of course, I was trying to duplicate a youthful face. Young and/or tanned faces will suit nudes all day long, but if you want to give your face a boost, you’ll need a little more colour.

So when the nudes didn’t nail it I bounced right over to the bright red brigade, however that just seemed to turn the clock back to 1985 and I looked like I was going to crash a Robert Palmer video.

Not givin in, I returned to the net and started to search make up for women in their forties and was delighted to find that make-up artist and beauty genius, Lisa Eldridge, who I recognised from magazines when I was young had her own YouTube site. Lisa is an absolute expert in her field; she’s passionate about make-up and very well respected. She works with celebrities such as Kate Winslet and her channel, with tons of free tutorials, is viewed by over 1 million followers, to she’s doing something right.

I found her video on Simple Evening Make Up for Mature Women to be really helpful and she has a new one on How to Pick and Wear the Perfect Nude Lipstick For You that’s really useful too. See I’ve not given up on the nude shades; I just needed to adjust my perception and pick out a better shade.

Armed with more info I have gone back to the shops. I’m currently wearing and enjoying MAC’s Velvet Teddy, Kinda Sexy and Viva Glam V for daywear. The first two are matt nudes and the last one has a shimmer. I nearly always use a lip liner for more definition, as your lips seem to appear thinner as you get older. I use one from Top Shop called Ceramic.

I’m also loving the rich burgundy shades that are in vogue this season, less harsh than letter box red, and I really want to get one for night outs so that I’m not completely invisible.

Hey, no-one puts baby in the corner….

Gail x

hummingbird cake

It was my husband’s birthday recently and when I asked him what he would like for the celebration, he chose this one. I knew he would. The Hummingbird Cake is absolutely delicious and an outright winner when I make it.

Light, moist and covered in lashings of Cream Cheese Frosting, what’s not to love. I used walnuts in this recent bake, but you can use pecans too.

It comes from the Hummingbird Bakery cookbook, which is one of my favourite recipe books. A true gem if you have a sweet tooth like me and you’ll find everything from special occasion cakes to traybakes that you can knock up quickly on a Saturday afternoon.

It’s one of my cherished secret possessions, held captive from my step-daughter, who it really belongs to. When she has her own place I’ll give it back to her and get my own copy. Until then…

Ingredients

For the Cake

300g caster sugar
3 eggs
300ml sunflower oil
270g peeled bananas, mashed
1 teaspoon ground cinnamon, plus extra to decorate
300g plain flour
1 teaspoon bicarbonate of soda
½ teaspoon salt
¼ teaspoon vanilla extract
100g tinned pineapple, chopped into small pieces
100g shelled pecan nuts (or walnuts), chopped, plus extra, chopped and whole, to decorate
2 quantities of Cream Cheese Frosting

For the Cream Cheese Frosting

300g icing sugar, sifted
50g unsalted butter, at room temperature
125g cream cheese, cold

You will need:

Three 20cm cake tins, base-filled with greaseproof paper

Method

Preheat the oven to 170C (Gas mark 3).

Put the sugar, eggs, oil, banana and cinnamon in a freestanding electric mixer with a paddle attachment (or use a handheld electric whisk) and beat until all the ingredients are well incorporated (don’t worry if the mixture looks slightly split). Slowly add the flour, bicarbonate of soda, salt and vanilla extract and continue to beat until everything is well mixed.

Stir in the chopped pineapple and pecan nuts by hand until evenly dispersed.

Pour the mixture into the prepared cake tins and smooth over with a palette knife. Bake in the preheated oven for 20-25 minutes, or until golden brown and the sponge bounces back when touched. Leave the cakes to cool slightly in the tins before turning out onto a wire cooling rack to cool completely.

When the cakes are cold, put one on a cake stand and spread about one-quarter of the Cream Cheese Frosting over it with a palette knife. Place a second cake on top and spread another quarter of the frosting over it. Top with the last cake and spread the remaining frosting over the top and sides. Finish with pecan nuts and a light sprinkling of cinnamon.

For the Cream Cheese Frosting:

Beat the icing sugar and butter together in a freestanding electric mixer with a paddle attachment (or use a handheld electric whisk) on medium-slow speed until the mixture comes together and is well mixed. Add the cream cheese in one go and beat until it is completely incorporated. Turn the mixer up to medium-high speed. Continue beating until the frosting is light and fluffy, at least five minutes. Do not overbeat, as it can quickly become runny.

Last piece of birthday cake and it was bigger than my cuppa. Win.

Our friends go to Tuscany every year and absolutely rave about it. So when it came to booking this year’s summer excursion I was eager to add it into the mix of possible destinations. Which is how I came to find myself standing on a plank, 12 ft in the air, holding on to the ledge of a first floor window this August.

We don’t really like to go on package holidays (when I say we, I mean me, SP, doesn’t really get involved in holiday bookings) as we, okay I, prefer to travel around a bit so that we can see more of the country.

SP wasn’t keen on the idea of Tuscany at first. “I was thinking that we’d go on more of a beach holiday”, he said, but after a 15 minute period of ‘time out’ he came round and I booked two return tickets to Pisa and dug out my copy of the Rough Guide to Italy.

San Gimignano, Tuscany

Pictures of lush green rolling hills, carafes of Chianti and oodles of fresh pasta in mind-blowing sauces aside I couldn’t help thinking of the opening scenes in Quantam of Solace. You know the one where 007 chases a villain through the alleyways of Siena while the world famous Palio di Siena is in full swing. It seemed like a good idea to merge the two.

The Palio is a cultural event that has been taking place on the cobbled streets of the Piazza Del Campo since the 11^th century. Horses are ridden bare-back by jockeys wearing bright Colors representing the 17 contrades, or city wards of Siena. The event and celebrations surrounding it last a few days, but the race itself lasts just 75 seconds on average.

There are two Palio events held each year, one in July and one in August, and our trip coincided with the second event. We arrived on the Saturday having spent a fantastic few days in Florence and checked in to our hotel for the weekend. Il Chiostro del Carmine is a really lovely hotel with charming and helpful staff. It is close to the Piazza Del Campo and was formerly a 13^th century convent. This does mean there isn’t a lift, but it was fine for our needs.

The practice run for the Siena Palio takes place on the Saturday, but unfortunately it was raining and was called off. Rain stopping play isn’t that great in Siena, it’s quite small and with around 60,000 visitors in town for the big event, you are jostling for a bar stool!

Lucky for us, we had found Vivace, which had pulled us in earlier with its street sign promising a beautiful view. We weren’t disappointed, so we went back there and settled in for the evening. The food here is delicious, the setting is stunning and the service is excellent. If you ever go to Siena, I thoroughly recommend it.

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Unfortunately, it was more of the same the next day and in between showers we managed to do a little sight-seeing. By early Sunday evening, the day of the race, we joined the throng of people gathered in the Piazza del Campo to learn that it wasn’t going to happen. Luckily for us we still had one more day in Siena and thankfully on the Monday the skies cleared and The Palio was good to go.

During my research I had come across this Daily Telegraph article and had bought tickets ahead of arriving in Siena – you can buy them when you are there if you want. You can watch The Palio from the cordoned off area in the centre of the Piazza for free, but at just 5ft 3 1/2 inches that’s not really an option for me and I did really want to see it. I had bought standing tickets in one of the grandstands and from the pictures it looked like it offered the perfect view.

Palio, Siena

It did, we had a fabulous view of the race, as you can see from these pictures, but what I hadn’t realised is that instead of being at the bottom of the grandstand and standing on the floor, we were guided towards the top of the grandstand, above people seated, to stand on top of the stand itself. There was nothing in front of us to hold on to (never would have passed health and safety) and along with the pre-race procession we were stood there for around 2 1/5 hours.

palio, siena

I did try to relax on the plank – there was a woman older than me up there and she seemed okay with it – but I’m obviously a wuss and was stiff as a board and gripped on to a first floor window ledge for dear life.

It was a long old wait clinging to the ledge, but once the procession was over and the horses drew up to the starting line, the thrill of the race was worth the wait. It was electrifying. My pulses haven’t raced that much since they used to hold power boat races in Bristol docks.

Palio, Siena

Mind you, I wasn’t the only one on edge that night. As I said the race is over super quick, and once the first horse had crossed the winning line men and boys climbed over the safety barricades and started jostling for a fight. Nothing serious broke out and I’m sure it’s just Italian machismo and the rivalry that’s been going on for centuries, but still, there was a lot squaring up going on. Perhaps it was all part of the show? At that point the ledge was the best place to be!

If you are ever in Siena at the time of The Palio races, do go. It’s wonderful to watch and brilliant fun to join in the celebrations. Just make sure you book yourself a seat.

Gail x

Hi, I’m Gail.

Welcome to my blog. Why, you might ask, am I doing this? There are so many bloggers out there already.

There are, for sure, lots of great bloggers that I love to read, follow and like, but I’ve found it quite hard to find blogs that I can relate to.

You see I’m in my forties. Quite brilliantly I can never remember exactly how old I am (yes this does actually happen to some women) until my husband reminds me. (Hopefully he won’t add a ‘comment’ underneath.) So I want to read about stuff that I’m interested in or things that I’m going through.

In my head I’ve not reached the middle of my life’s span, no, I’m still pretty much young in my head and my heart, but I now need a little more help. Choosing the right foundation has reached crisis point in recent years, as has making sure I have the best possible under eye cream, dark circle concealer and sunglasses to hand, at all times.

I love to read and be inspired, I’ve been an avid magazine consumer since I was young, and this has obviously now progressed to spending far too much time on the net, reading lifestyle websites, following inspiring bloggers from around the world, and like many, checking Instagram every five minutes.

What I’m missing is more ‘girl’ talk of my age group. I do want to look as good as I can and there are some great 40 something bloggers out there, that I’m following, but I don’t always fit into their readership as I’m not a mummy and won’t be going on the school run any time soon. I am a step-mum to my husband’s two teenage children, but as my mum has always said, “I can say what I like about my kids, but god help anyone else.” I respect that, so I won’t be talking about them very much.

No, I have always been and still am, a full-time working woman. They say find a career that you have a passion for and I did. I have worked in PR for many years and still enjoy it, very much. I live in Bristol, but mainly work in Bath and also from my office at home, which means sometimes I need to dress up and more often than not I need to just get dressed.

I do like to shop, but not as I used to. Hey, no-one needs to dress up to settle down for Strictly. There are a whole new set of rules past 40, say what you want, but they exist and are whispered in the quiet corner of the changing rooms. Thank god for private cubicles, many of us still bear the scars of the open plan changing room of Chelsea Girl circa. late 80’s.

Short sleeves are tricky and my daisy dukes are holiday-wear only nowadays, but I don’t want to give in entirely, I just need to find my way around the clothing situation. I make mistakes all the time, but I think I’m getting there, maybe. No matter what your age, as long as you feel good, you can wear what you like, right?

What else, well I love to travel. This is a mid-life crisis/meeting ‘the one’ later in life combo situation. I didn’t get married until I literally was eye-balling my forties. That wasn’t planned. I didn’t play hard to get. I just didn’t get together with my husband until I was in my late thirties. We married six months after he proposed, obvs! Since then it’s been a race to fit everything in. When I’m in that retirement home, I’m going to have some bloody good memories, or I’ll die now trying.

I also love to cook, my mum taught me, and I’m often inspired from the people that I work with. So you will likely see posts on here of recipes that I’ve tried to make while listening to Graham Norton, Michael Ball or Kiss FM (depends on the menu/company). I’m not good at going off piste with a recipe, but you might be interested (or not) in seeing what I’m cooking in case you fancy it too.

So this is me, a forty something blogger. Still learning, but with not much time on my hands, still keen to make the most of what god gave me, but struggling to appear as fresh as a daisy, still grasping life with both hands and not giving in.

I can’t be the only one out there, so I thought I would share the journey on a blog, just in case there’s someone else who also doesn’t want to give in! If you’re out there, join me for the ride.

Gail x

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